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Self Help:
Joyce:



"Allen Carr's Easy Way for Women to Stop Smoking," by Allen Carr. $10.67.



A friend of mine told me to read this book because it helped another friend to finally quit smoking. Alright I said to myself. What do I have to lose. I tried every which way to stop, just like a dieter trying every diet plan on the planet. I've quit on and off for years but each time I quit I always felt deprived and miserable. When I quit I always felt that I no longer had my crutch...my friend...my anti anxiety fix. So one Sunday morning I lit a cigarette and sat down on the sofa and looked at the Mr. Carr's book.

I was impressed when I read on the book jacket that the author Allen Carr smoked for 33 years, figured out how to quit, and gained recognition as a leading authority on how to stop smoking. Within the first few pages, I laughed out loud when he said "you are probably smoking while reading this." Holy Smokes, how did he know that? Then I wasn't so embarrassed and was hooked on reading the rest of the book. Here was a ex smoker who understood what I felt. Allen Carr said this was an easy way to quit because his method didn't require will power. It requires an open mind and a few other steps but you didn't need to quit until the end of the book and then you would want to.

Well it did help me to stop. Actually I stopped half way through. I had no withdrawal symptoms which I'd previously always experienced. (even my friends said...did you go back? You haven't said anything). I really didn't have a need to talk about not smoking. It came naturally. The book convinced me not to smoke but not in the conventional way most books and smoking cessation classes (yea I tried that too) do. This book resonated with me as a smoker. Allen Carr explains the big monster and the little monster in smoking. The big monster is the brain washing that once you start smoking, keeps you smoking. Society plays a role in this. The little monster is the nicotine addiction and the constant feeding of the little monster which your brain tells you, begs you, pleads with you, to keep doing.

Most shocking is that when I put out my last butt, I didn't feel deprived or that I was missing something. I don't believe you can twist anyone's arm. When you read this book you need to keep an open mind. That is a key element and following Allen Carr's instructions. The most unusual aspect of this book is that Allen Carr talks about being happy. That life is joyful, worth living and that you don't need the cigarettes to be happy. He proves to you why they don't make you less anxious, and in fact does the opposite as well as rob you of your health and pocketbook. For people who have never been addicted to smoking I can tell you that it's one of the most difficult things I've ever done. I've heard that addiction to smoking is harder to quit than heroin. I've heard addicts say this too. I know that I thought it was my best friend. I don't feel that way anymore. I am a non smoker, and feel really good about it. I hope others will read this book or give it to friends who smoke. The website is www.allencarrusa.com
Dianne Young :



Engel, Beverly. "Loving Him Without Losing You. How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself." (2000) John Wiley & Sons, New York. Paperback: $10.91. (Amazon Rating: 5 stars)



Even though I am not currently in a relationship, I found this book an interesting and stimulating read as I recognised previous ways of relating to others not restricted to the male of the species.

One of the strengths of the book is the way that it incorporates social, cultural and biological factors into its analysis of the problem of women who tend to lose themselves in relationships with men. It clearly describes the causes and symptoms of the problem and then describes seven practical commitments that lead to a strengthening of the self while developing and maintaining a healthy relationship.

The aim of the commitments is the development of a sense of self that has substance. Engels notes that even women with a strong sense of self and adherence to the gains of feminism, still tend to lose themselves to some extent in their personal relationships with men.

The strategies she suggests are not exclusively useful to this problem. Since they are concerned with empowerment, they are valid to women with complex PTSD. Significant abandonment issues and a tendency to merge with others are difficulties often faced by survivors of early childhood abuse and neglect. These issues predispose a person to disappear in significant relationships. It is for this reason that I recommend the book.

It encourages the development of authenticity which is of course a hallmark of a healthy sense of self. Engels stresses the role of creativity in healing and the development of an individual self. She writes that creativity can "teach us things about ourselves we never knew, plummeting us to depths within ourselves we would never venture to in any other way. It can help us find strength, resolve, commitment, wisdom, and passion we never knew we possessed" (p. 230).

I recommend this book because of its balance, insight, wisdom and capacity to instill hope.
Jan:

I also have a couple of books to recommend to all the support pals. The latest I have read( and hardly been able to put down) is called
In Session: The Bond Between Women and Their Therapists by Deborah A. Lott. It really helped me understand why the therapeutic relationship is so difficult a one for both client and therapist and unlike any other bond humans form. I highly recommend it to all. Another I really have liked is I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors (2nd ed.) by Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D.
Jone:



Robbins, Tony. "Get the Edge."



This is a 7 day course that will change your life. Tony has organized fourteen days of listening - that actually take much longer due to the homework assignments. He has included his Personal Power Classic Success Journal and "The Key to Personal Power". Each cassette brings you closer to knowing how you think, what triggers your reactions, etc. He gives you instructions as to how to harness what you have and change it to your advantage.

The second set of tapes, "Get The Edge" moves you quickly from the understanding of where you are and why you are there to moving forward into the world you would like to be in. One great advantage of this series of tapes is what I call his "Power Walk" tape. He instructs you on how to breath while walking, then mentally put yourself into a state of appreciation, then move into what you would like in your world, then moving into the world you want and giving thanks for getting there. By the time you finish listening to the tape, whether you are actually walking or (typing like me) you are energized. This tape is to be used daily and I have been using it for over a month now and I find myself empowered. Those times when I would have become tired or depressed, I find inner strength and happiness. I find his work remarkable.




Ancient Secret of the Fountain of Youth by Peter Kelder / $10.75.



This is a quick read about an old bent over man who went searching for the fountain of youth -- and found it in a Tibetan monastery. He came back looking and acting so young that the author didn't recognize him. Proof that we can grow young, that growing old is purely a state of mind. He then taught the author the Tibetan secret. Peter Kelder is kind enough to share this teaching with his readers. It consists of five main exercises which get all your vortexes spinning at the same rate of speed, thereby generating energy and youth. I call the exercises "the Tibetan 5". They are to be performed daily to whatever degree you can perform them. Like the Tony Robbins exercise, they bring a positive force with them leaving you feeling happy and energized!



"Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui" by Karen Kingston $8.75 from Amazon.com



This is an instructional book in how to gain energy by throwing out the negatives and clutter in the home. I like to tell this story about the Kingston Feng Shui books. At the time I was introduced to them I was living in a very small, dingy and noisy studio. This particular day, my back had began hurting again and I became fearful that it would go out, rendering me on disability.

This day found me sitting at a small table talking to a stranger at Starbucks. The stranger was a woman who was working Feng Shui throughout her apartment. She told me about the book that was being sold by Starbucks. The conversation lasted for hours. She told me that by working Feng Shui in your home, your life would be changed for the better. I went home and began to clear out the clutter -- the bathroom first because it was the smallest and remember, my back hurt. Once that bathroom was cleared of clutter, and a red poster hung up, cleaned, I had more energy. With that energy I went into the dressing room and cleared that clutter, I gained more energy. I worked the 14 foot square living rm/bedroom portion of the studio and again gained more energy. I had to request my neighbors to help move things in the kitchen but again, same thing happened. More energy came to me.

My back, although the pain lessened, didn't go away. It was at this point that I bought Kingston's first book
"Clearing Sacred Space with Feng Shui". Kingston informed her readers that there should be nothing under your bed. I cleared everything out from under the bed. She then informed the reader that there should be no corners sending energy through you while you slept. (Every sharp corner on furniture will send energy from its point outward and anything in its path will be affected.) I found the corner that was directing its energy precisely where my back was hurting! (I found the culprit!) I removed it and the pain disappeared. But I had the problem where I wouldn't sleep on the whole bed, I would cuddle the edge. In her book she described that as being some energy outside of the living quarters. Upon investigation, I found a railing that made a sharp corner and sending energy which split the bed in half. To correct the problem, Kingston suggested that a mirror. I hung the mirror at the foot of the bed and suddenly I could use the whole bed. I couldn't believe it, it only took maybe three weeks and no back pain, no depression and in its place was such positive explosive energy that I was back working again.

Highly recommended book. I use her method also at the office and have had numerous people come by just to feel the uplifting energy. The other day one of my co-workers even thanked me for making my area so positive.



"The Greatest Miracle In the World," by Og Mandino, author of The Greatest Salesman In The World / $7.99 from Amazon.com.



This is a story of the Ragpicker. The Ragpicker is an old man who helps people learn who they are and what they are to do in life. It is told in the first person and Og tells about his encounters with the old man. Beautifully done. Then at page 89, we find the God Memorandum. Here is the miracle. You read this chapter for 100 days and by the time you end, you are thinking and doing things differently than what you felt you were trained to do, i.e. the abusiveness of youth gives way to a much needed peace and tranquility. It destroys the elements that harm you and you begin to regain something you felt you'd lost. Or at least that I felt I'd lost. It is all about "[T]he four laws of happiness and success: Count your blessings, proclaim your rarity, go another mile [and] [u]se wisely your power of choice. And one more, to fulfill the other four. Do all things with love...love for yourself, love for all others, and love for me."

It is a pretty easy and compelling read. Story is delightful and the power instilled (once you read the God Memorandum) is absolutely empowering.



"The Diamond Cutter," by Geshe Michael Roach / $10.36 from Amazon.com.



This is about "[t]he Buddha on strategies for managing your business and your life." The story of a diamond cutter and how he was trained in the art of cutting diamonds and at the same time how to deal with life and people. Not an easy read but most definitely a good resource book on how to handle a variety of situations.



"You Must Be Dreaming," by Barbara Noel with Kathryn Watterson / $[unknown] Amazon.com.



This book is about a woman, Barbara Noel, who went to a psychiatrist for assistance with stage fright only to learn that he was doing strange things to her while she was under a drug. It is her story of how she finally put him into the courts and how the medical profession handled the whole situation. To me it let me know that I'm not alone with the non-support of the professionals. That money from the culprits is more important than the saving of an innocent. It is well organized and well written.
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Neurophysiology:
Joyce:



"Nature's Mind: The Biological Roots of Thinking, Emotions, Sexuality, Language and Intelligence," by Michael S. Gazzaniga. $15.00.



This book challenges the nature vs. nurture viewpoint and asks us to consider the concept of Natural Selection as a way of looking at human behavior. Dr. Gazzaniga believes that Natural Selection explains everything from clinical depression to addiction, substance abuse, and language. Just like the environment selects those organisms that will survive our brain has the capacity to pull out what we need to know to live in our world. Our brains are like the black box of an airplane, and/or a deep complicated file cabinet and we select the information we need at the time we need it. "All we do is discover what is already built into our brains."


"Emotional Brain," by Joseph LeDoux. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars) $9.90.



I read Nature's Mind before I read this book because I felt it would give me a better introduction into the science of the brain.

Jospeh LeDoux is a brain researcher who believes that many of our emotions in particular fear evolved from early man in response to their harsh and dangerous environment. This was our protection. Our feelings and emotions have evolved over centuries as a result of this protective behavior. The brain makes sense and reacts unconsciously to information and stimuli in order to better instruct us physically what to do in certain situations. Dr. LeDoux studied the brain's fear system which leads him to conclude that we may be unaware of fear-related memories that get imprinted on the brain. This can lead to disorders like PTSD, OCD, Phobias, Anxiety among others. Dr. Ledoux talks about multiple memory systems. The most interesting one to me is the "emotional memories." They used rats to do a lot of fear conditioning experiments and the results are interesting. Not easy reading for me but I enjoyed this book.
Joyce:



"Defending the Cavewoman: And Other Tales of Evolutionary Neurology," by Harold L. Klawans, MD. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $17.47.



It's interesting to read Dr. Klawans view on evolution. He believes that the development of Homo Sapiens was the result of how females, the primary caretakers of the children played a vital role in evolution of Homo Sapiens. The female taught communication skills, language and was the primarily educator while the men hunted and developed tools for food. And on the other hand, Neanderthals according to Dr. Klawans cannot be traced today even though Neanderthals and modern human beings lived side by side for thousands of years. The more adaptable or more juvenilized. The books also explains the history of neurology, and the function and structure of the brain. Dr. Klawans had a great interest in Parkinson's and Huntington's disease and gives clinical anecdotal evidence of how evolution controls how these diseases operate.

"My Lunch with Oliver", Dr. Klawans chapter about neurologist and author, Oliver Sacks was my favorite chapter. I loved the book,
The Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat by Oliver Sacks. They both specialized in movement disorders. Their differences was discussed and their mutual respect and admiration was a pleasure to read.
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Trauma & Addiction:
Patti:



"You Can Too! A Mind, Body, Spirit Connection for Weight Loss," by Jacqueline Garrick,.Wheaton, MD: Resilient Press. 2005. $17.95.



Garrick has written a light, easy to read, fun and entertaining book about weight loss. The book is interactive with questions to answer and checklists that will assist anyone who is ready to address their health and weight issues. The book is practical and the reader immediately feels that weight loss is doable and that it is not as difficult as she may have thought. There are wonderful tips that the author utilized and found successful for her own weight loss issues. She offers many useful links for additional support.

The author stresses that this book is especially for those unmotivated to diet and exercise. She stresses it is not a proven program but what worked for her and what she picked up along the way that was helpful. Garrick makes it clear that weight loss involves the total person and that attitudes must be changed, stressors addressed and a healthy lifestyle adopted. She lists a new weight pyramid that I found especially helpful. Since Garrick has specialized in PTSD counseling and is a life coach I feel the book is especially appropriate for our support pals who want to lose weight.

This is a fun book to read and it gives hope, motivation and inspiration. I recommend it. It is beneficial, even for those who are not overweight but want to maintain a healthy diet and lifestyle.
Kris:



"Trauma and Addiction: Ending the Cycle of Pain Through Emotional Literacy," by Tian Dayton, Phd., (Amazon rating 5 stars). $11.01.



I found this book quite helpful. I truly feel it is worth a read. I just touched on a few topics to give you an idea of the content. It explained why you feel the way you do, or don't feel for that matter; it just answered a lot of questions for me. Although it is geared for alcoholics (of which I am not and still found the book a great resource), it is also trauma based and talks about PTSD a great deal: talks about unresolved childhood trauma and how that affects our adult life; how trauma periods undermine healthy relationships; what the typical personality characteristics are that you are left with because of trauma, (explains why you are the way you are and that because of those experiences, you are normal for what you went through); explains why you feel "stuck," and how trauma affects your physical as well as your emotional self. Most importantly, it attempts to show you how you can effectively work this through.
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Favorite Novels:
Patti:



"Lost and Found," by Sheehan, Jacqueline
(New York, NY: Harper Collins Publisher. 2007) (Amazon rating 4.5 stars) $11.16.



If you want to read a wonderful story by an author who knows how to give pain a voice, don't pass up this powerful little novel. And if you love animals you will especially appreciate Sheehan's unique way of drawing you inside the emotional life of a wonderful dog. I picked up this book on a whim, attracted by the picture of a dog on the cover. Once I started reading I found myself hooked, alternately crying and laughing at different points in the story.

Written with a psychologist's knowledge of human behavior, the star of the story is also a psychologist (Rocky) whose foundation is cracked by the unexpected death of her husband. As she seeks to regain her footing in life she escapes to a small island where she accepts a part-time job as animal warden. There she rescues, and is rescued, by, a wounded dog who captures the hearts of those in the story and the reader. The dog, who has also lost someone dear, teaches the hurting Rocky how to live and love again.

There are so many nuggets of gold throughout this book that I cannot do it justice in a short review. But I heartily recommend this book to all our support pals and feel that you will find a comrade in your pain in this author's words and will come to feel hope that you can also find a path through your pain to a better life.

Patti Brown, book reviewer
Gift From Within
9/20/07
Bru:



"The Miracle Life of Edgar Mint," by Brady Udall
(New York: W.W. Norton, 2001). (Amazon rating 4.5 stars) $10.61.



This book is best summed up on the book jacket. "... this riveting picaresque novel chronicles the hopes and heartbreaks of Edgar Presley Mint. The trials of Edgar, half Apache and mostly orphaned, begin on an Arizona reservation at the age of seven, when the mailman's jeep accidentally runs over his head. Shunted from the hospital to a school for delinquents to a Mormon foster family, comedy, pain, and trouble accompany Edgar through a string of larger-than-life experiences. Through it all, readers will root for this irrestible innocent who never truly loses heart, and whose quest for the mailman leads him to an unexpected home."

This is a sizable novel at 423 pages and well worth every page. It's been years since I've even considered reading a book this long but this is the best story I've read in just as many years. The characters are real and knowable. I enjoyed this novel very much. One reviewer, that says it well, said, "Edgar, the wounded, utterly orphaned, and utterly courageous narrator of Brady Udall's outstanding novel, would have pleased Dickens no end. Enmeshed in these pages is some of the finest writing I've come across in a long time, as well as a story that tears at you and calls you back to it no matter what you're up to. There is also a human heart beating in here, as beautiful and profound as your own."
Cindy Lou:



"The Blue Bottle Club." by Penelopy Stokes. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $11.89.



This is a great escapist kind of book but it also has a good message. I
enjoyed reading it. It will help you take your mind off the things going on
around you and is relaxing and at the same time inspirational.

A reporter not sure which direction her life is headed finds a blue cobolt
bottle in a mansion being torn down. Inside the bottle she finds a peice of
paper where right before the Great Depression in l929, four teenagers wrote
down the desires they had for their future. The reporter was intrigued. She
wondered whether these people still were alive and if their dreams came true.
So the reporter decides to pursue this idea for a human interest story and in
the process finds herself and realizes she can make some of her own goals for
the future. I loved it. Very inspirational. A MUST READ!




"The Amethyst Heart." by Penelopy Stokes. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $11.89.



I don't have a lot of time to read with two small children and working full
time but I do like this author, Penelopy Stokes and I'm recommending a few of
her books.

This excellent and highly entertaining novel is particularly fun to read if
you're in the mood to escape everyday normal routines! This book opens with
a great-grandmother living in a pre-civil war house celebrating her birthday
with her son, his wife and their grandchild (HER great-grand daughter).
After discovering a plot that her son has against her and her ancient mansion
she sends him and his wife on an ice cream run and locks the place up holding
her great- granddaughter hostage to the mansion and all of the wonderful
stories that she begins to tell the great-granddaugther. Of course after a
few hours and becoming enraptured in the history of the house the
great-granddaughter doesn't feel like a hostage. Travel with them all the
way back to before the civil war and learn a few secrets along the way!